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Ways to Safely Participate in BDSM

October 14, 2021 11:00 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

So, you want to try BDSM, but you’re worried about your personal, emotional and physical safety. That’s completely understandable. Thankfully, when you have the right partner, there are plenty of ways to participate in safe BDSM. There’s no way to completely eliminate the risks involved with BDSM. That’s why it’s so important to only give it a try with someone you trust implicitly—and who will sit down with you to talk about boundaries, expectations and other issues. If you are giving up physical power to another person, there’s always the chance that they can take advantage. We want you to... View Article

A Guide to Being a Dominant

September 30, 2021 3:22 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Whether you’ve always wanted to be sexually dominant or you’re starting to explore your fantasies, there’s no single way to be a dominant. Every dom has a different style, but there are some major guidelines to adhere to and red flags to avoid. If you want to establish long-lasting BDSM relationships with submissive partners, you’ll need to put in the work first. Put down the pop culture depictions of BDSM and read on. What is a dom? Doms come in a lot of different varieties, but good ones have several qualities in common. First, they’re respectful and patient—not aggressive and... View Article

The Difference Between Real and Fake Dominants

September 16, 2021 3:22 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

BDSM requires a lot of trust and vulnerability. If you’re not practicing the lifestyle within an already-committed relationship, you might be on the lookout for a dominant partner. Unfortunately, not all doms are created equal. Some people (usually but not exclusively men) claim they’re doms—but they don’t adhere to the consent, trust and boundary practices that make BDSM a safe and fulfilling experience for practitioners. Here’s how to tell the difference between real and fake dominants, so you can spot a fake a mile away. Real dominants A real dom is committed to the safety practices in BDSM as much... View Article

How to Resolve Conflict in a D/s Relationship

September 2, 2021 1:31 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Everyone fights, even when you love each other. When you’re in a D/s relationship, however, the dynamics may be unlike those of “typical” relationships you’ve experienced in the past. For most D/s partnerships, the key to resolving the conflict will be to step outside your BDSM roles in order to address the issue. Once things are resolved, you can return to your roles and your regular sex life. Here’s how to resolve conflicts in BDSM relationships, so you can get back to the fun stuff: Take a time out: When you’re in the heat of the moment, it’s all too... View Article

A Guide to Navigating BDSM as a Beginner

August 19, 2021 1:31 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Navigating BDSM as a beginner can be intimidating. Do you need to go buy out the toy section of your favorite adult store before you can begin? Are there rules, community norms or something else you must follow, or can you forge your own path? As always, your exploration is up to you—which means that when you’re navigating BDSM in the beginning, you should take it as slow as you like. Finding out what you like (and what you really, really don’t) is an individual discovery. Here’s how to take the plunge as a BDSM beginner. What is BDSM? BDSM... View Article

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