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BDSM in Long-Distance Relationships

July 22, 2021 7:21 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

It’s hard to have intimacy in a long-distance relationship. When you don’t see each other often, you may struggle to connect in both an emotional and physical way—especially if your tastes are anything but vanilla. If you’re into BDSM, there are a few ways you can keep things spicy, even when there are hundreds of miles and plenty of hours between you. Exploring BDSM across a long distance will help keep your physical relationship alive, but it creates a new sense of emotional intimacy, too. As always, make sure you discuss boundaries, limits and safe words before you begin: Embrace... View Article

What to Know About BDSM as a Beginner

July 8, 2021 2:43 am Published by Leave your thoughts

BDSM can be a fun part of your sex life—or the entirety of it—but starting out as a beginner can be intimidating. Before you set up historical-grade stocks in your living room, you should take some time to learn more about the core values, safety practices and, most importantly, what you actually like. Here’s what you should know about BDSM when you’re a beginner. Communication is key One of the core tenets of BDSM is communication—which can be awkward when you have to say things like, “I’d like to wear a furry tail attached to an anal plug, honey—is that... View Article

BDSM 101: Figuring Out, and Communicating, What You’re Into

June 24, 2021 2:43 am Published by Leave your thoughts

So, you think BDSM looks interesting, but you’re not quite sure where to start. Before you go out and purchase a full PVC catsuit and an array of whips and restraints, read on—figuring out how you want to approach BDSM is different for everyone, and it’s always best to start slow. In fact, if you already have a partner, communication is one of the most important parts of the relationship. (If you think it’s embarrassing to talk about your kinks, just imagine how awkward it would be if your partner caned you without warning.) Here’s how to figure out and... View Article

Time Outs: Bondage Works Best!

June 4, 2021 1:24 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Are you thinking about adding punishments to your BDSM play? Not all of them have to be of the whips, canes and clamps variety. Sometimes a bondage time out can be an extremely effective way to adjust your submissive’s behavior. As long as you both discuss punishments, potential length and limits, you can use time outs to create anticipation, punishment or both. Here’s how to get started when you’re looking to use time outs in your BDSM relationship: Remember that time outs are discipline: Discipline can be a fun way to establish dominance—reward the good behavior and punish the bad—but... View Article

Spanking Is Not Just a Punishment

May 21, 2021 1:24 am Published by Leave your thoughts

If you, like the Red Hot Chili Peppers once sang, “like pleasure spiked with pain,” you’re not alone. Spanking has been a part of sexual play for thousands of years, if not more. So, what’s the obsession with slapping butts and other body parts—and is it right for you? If you’re looking to add new ways to play, spanking can be a source of pleasure and punishment. Here’s what you need to know. History of spanking Did you know that even the Kama Sutra has instructions on spanking? It’s true—the book lays out four different hand positions, six positions for... View Article