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Safe Words Are Always Used

February 13, 2023 5:06 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

In the BDSM community, safe words are a pre-agreed word or signal that stops play instantly. They are part of a permissive philosophy that encourages risk-aware consensual kink. They’re also a great tool to communicate with your partner. But it’s important to discuss your safe word techniques before negotiating any scene. What Makes For A Good Safe Word A good safe word is one that gets its own attention, is easily remembered, and conveys the proper message in a clear, concise manner. This is especially true for the non-verbal safe word, as your partner may be too focused on the... View Article

Spanking Is Not Just a Punishment

September 26, 2022 12:00 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Spanking is a core BDSM skill, and not just because it’s the first ‘toy’ in anyone’s tool chest. Hands are tactile and effective at delivering a range of sensations, from the sublime to the sadistic. Spanking can be a sizzling warm-up before using other implements of pain delivery or the whole show. Since it’s relatively low risk, it’s a great place to start when looking for sadistic erotic play ideas.  Communication Is Divine Before any kinky ideas for the bedroom become reality, take time to sit down with your partner and discuss your desires, fears, and limitations. Establish a safe... View Article

The Ultimate List of Kinks & Fetishes, Explained by Sex Experts

July 20, 2022 12:00 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Kinks and fetishes are a huge part of life for many people, but they are still considered "taboo" topics. Thus, you might be searching for a discreet guide to kinks and fetishes to learn more. These are some top kinks and fetishes and an explanation of how they differ, as per the experts.  Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish A kink is a sexual act that falls outside of what most people consider normal or acceptable. It doesn’t have to be outrageous for people to consider it a kink. It just needs to be different from conventional relations. Some... View Article

The Difference Between Dommes vs Doms

July 19, 2022 12:00 am Published by Leave your thoughts

The world of BDSM has many phrases and terms you may not understand if you’re a beginner. Here’s some information about BDSM and the term dommes vs dom. What Is BDSM? BDSM stands for bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism. Discipline and submission are sometimes added to the formula as well. BDSM is a sexual lifestyle that involves exerting power over another person to the point of thoroughly dominating the individual.  Some individuals refer to BDSM sexuality as "kink," which means it’s non-conventional and much different from traditional, stationary, or "wholesome" lovemaking.  For BDSM to work effectively and not be considered... View Article

Beginner’s Guide to Kink

May 6, 2022 12:00 am Published by Leave your thoughts

If you are curious about adding spice to your relationship but unsure where to begin, this beginners guide to kinks will offer titillating ideas. Start with kinks for beginners — advanced kink is best reserved for after you’ve gotten comfortable playing at the edge.  A Note on Safety  Kink requires communication, honesty, and safety considerations. You can explore R.A.C.K. and S.S.C. — two safety models developed by the community. They essentially mean any kink you play with should be understood and agreed upon before play begins, and you should know the risks and plan for them.  Safe words are among... View Article

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