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Addressing Common Stereotypes in the BDSM Community

December 7, 2020 8:41 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

BDSM stereotypes and misconceptions abound, whether it’s people who have only seen 50 Shades of Grey and think it’s representative of the community as a whole, or those who find it shameful or threatening. As with all areas of life, BDSM is best viewed on a spectrum: it can be as mild as wearing handcuffs and a blindfold on occasion, or as all-encompassing as an entire lifestyle choice. If you’re thinking about exploring BDSM, it’s good to be aware of these stereotypes and misconceptions so you can educate yourself appropriately. Here’s the truth behind some of the most popular misconceptions:... View Article

How Has the Coronavirus Affected the BDSM Community?

November 23, 2020 8:40 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

COVID-19 has affected every aspect of life, including the kink community. Since the virus can be spread by respiratory droplets, even being indoors without a mask and around people not in your household can risk infection. As you undoubtedly know by now, the virus can be fatal, but even people who recover experience serious side effects like heart and lung damage. Here’s an overview of BDSM during the coronavirus pandemic, and what you can do to enjoy it without unnecessary risk. COVID-19 and BDSM play As we approach winter, many states are encouraging people to stay home instead of travel,... View Article

Top Five Things to Know About Kink

September 1, 2020 10:14 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

What do you know about kink—and what do you want to know about it? If you’ve considered ramping things up (or tying things down) in the bedroom, it’s important to do some research ahead of time so you fully understand what kink is, how to do it safely and how to communicate with your partner. Here are some of the things you should know when you’re ready to embrace the kink lifestyle: Your friends are doing it: Believe it or not, about half the population is interested in kinky sex, which means that, chances are, someone you know is getting... View Article

Kink vs. Fetish: What’s the Difference?

July 30, 2020 7:21 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

When you’re new to the world of BDSM, the difference between kinks and fetishes may not be immediately clear. Most people know that both refer to taboo or out-of-the-norm sexual practices, but what do they really mean, and how are they different from each other? While it’s true that both terms refer to sex acts or desires that are out of the ordinary, they refer to very different concepts. In short, “kink” is an umbrella term that encompasses all alternative sexual practices, while “fetish” is a specific need in order to become aroused or experience orgasm. Kinks and fetishes are... View Article

The Importance of Safe Words in BDSM

July 16, 2020 7:21 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Experimenting with BDSM gives you the opportunity to try a lot of kinky or taboo sex acts and power dynamics—but when you’re trying something that involves giving up control to another person, having a safe word is a must. Safe words are the “red light” of sex: if you or your partner utter your safe word, it means you must stop whatever you’re doing immediately. What a safe word accomplishes A safe word is usually a word you’d never say during sex—think “marshmallow” instead of “stop.” The idea is that each partner, especially the submissive partner, has an absolute out... View Article

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