Ways to Help Get Into a Submissive Headspace

If you’ve been wondering how to get into a submissive headspace and become a better sub, there are a few different methods you can try. While BDSM is fun and rewarding for many people, it can be difficult to give up control to your dominant partner. The best way to address this is with plenty of communication—and treating your safe word as sacred.

Here are some tips for getting into a submissive headspace.

What is a submissive headspace?

No matter your age, gender, sexual preference or personality, chances are that you’ve had to take a leading role in your own life. Most of us are used to handling whatever life throws our way, whether that’s waiting in a long line at the bank or having to cook dinner when you’re exhausted. We all have a certain level of control over our lives.

As a submissive, giving up control can be pleasurable—if you can get to that point. Many people find they have a hard time letting go so their dom can run the show. That’s normal, but it can hinder your fantasies.

A submissive headspace is one where you feel relaxed, ready to serve and detached from everyday stressors. Typically, this is built on three elements: trust, safety and connection. You need to be able to trust that your partner will respect your limits and only push your boundaries where you have agreed. (A safe word goes a long way here.) You should also feel completely safe in their control, and connected to them on both an emotional and physical level. When these elements are met, subs are in the right headspace to enjoy BDSM.

How to get into the submissive headspace

Here are some ways to get into the zone:

• Plan ahead: One great way to really feel like a submissive is by planning scenes ahead of time with your dom. Sit down together and talk openly about what you’d like to try, where your limits are and what you imagine will happen.
• Ask for help: If you’re struggling for any reason, be it work, family or your sex life, ask your partner for help. Even if you’re not in a romantic connection, they should be willing to work with you to make you feel more comfortable.
• Take care of your health: Taking care of your physical and mental health can go a long way. Make sure you’re visiting your doctor regularly, taking prescribed supplements and medications as directed and have healthy emotional outlets. The better you feel about yourself (and your dom), the more ready you’ll be for the next scene.
• Follow rules and rituals: Finally, rituals can help you get into a submissive headspace. Talk to your partner about things you can do to separate the stresses of daily life from your bedroom activities, like showering together once you come home from work.

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