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Ways to Help Get Into a Submissive Headspace

March 11, 2022 8:18 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

If you’ve been wondering how to get into a submissive headspace and become a better sub, there are a few different methods you can try. While BDSM is fun and rewarding for many people, it can be difficult to give up control to your dominant partner. The best way to address this is with plenty of communication—and treating your safe word as sacred. Here are some tips for getting into a submissive headspace. What is a submissive headspace? No matter your age, gender, sexual preference or personality, chances are that you’ve had to take a leading role in your own... View Article

Ways a Submissive Can Draw Out the Dominant in Their Partner

February 25, 2022 8:18 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Whether you’re new to the BDSM scene or you’d like to improve your existing relationship, there are a few ways a submissive can draw out their partner’s dominant side. Making a better dominant is a team effort: it takes communication, consent and plenty of planning from both parties. If your partner is having trouble embracing their inner (or outer) dom, here are some ways you can help draw out their dominant side. Consent and communication Consent is a hallmark of any healthy BDSM relationship. Communication is equally important. Although it can be awkward to tell your partner what exactly you’d... View Article

5 Signs of Bad Submissives

February 3, 2022 10:24 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

What’s the sign of a bad submissive? When you practice BDSM, “bad” could mean anything from “naughty and must be punished” to “unhealthy and dysfunctional.” In relationships where there’s a heavy dominant/submissive component, it’s important that you take the power exchange into account. Some BDSM submissive behaviors are bad in the unhealthy way, and should be avoided. Here are five signs that your submissive is bad: Bad communication skills: Communication is the hallmark of any BDSM relationship. If you aren’t able to express your desires and set limits, neither of you will get what you need out of the relationship.... View Article

Does BDSM Lead to Better Sex and Relationships?

January 20, 2022 10:24 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Does practicing BDSM help with better sex and more fulfilling relationships? While there have been countless studies performed, with varying results, most researchers agree that safe, sane and consensual BDSM can help with better sex and relationships. As long as all parties agree on boundaries, you can use bondage, discipline, submission and masochism to forge a new sense of closeness—and a lot of bedroom fun. BDSM and public perception There are plenty of people out there who hesitate to try BDSM, thanks to its taboo public perception. If your only knowledge of BDSM comes from 50 Shades of Grey and... View Article

BDSM Myths You Need to Stop Believing, According to Kink Experts

December 29, 2021 11:59 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

There are some major myths about BDSM—stuff you should stop believing, if you listen to kink experts. By now, you probably know that 50 Shades is not an accurate depiction of most BDSM relationships, nor does every practitioner suffer from personality disorders or childhood trauma. Nevertheless, these misperceptions persist. BDSM is primarily a power exchange. That means that one partner consensually gives up control to another, who agrees to be the dominant partner. You might do this for various reasons, whether that’s “I have made 700 other decisions today and it’s your turn to be in charge,” or because you... View Article



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