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The Difference Between Real and Fake Dominants

September 16, 2021 3:22 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

BDSM requires a lot of trust and vulnerability. If you’re not practicing the lifestyle within an already-committed relationship, you might be on the lookout for a dominant partner. Unfortunately, not all doms are created equal. Some people (usually but not exclusively men) claim they’re doms—but they don’t adhere to the consent, trust and boundary practices that make BDSM a safe and fulfilling experience for practitioners. Here’s how to tell the difference between real and fake dominants, so you can spot a fake a mile away. Real dominants A real dom is committed to the safety practices in BDSM as much... View Article

How to Resolve Conflict in a D/s Relationship

September 2, 2021 1:31 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Everyone fights, even when you love each other. When you’re in a D/s relationship, however, the dynamics may be unlike those of “typical” relationships you’ve experienced in the past. For most D/s partnerships, the key to resolving the conflict will be to step outside your BDSM roles in order to address the issue. Once things are resolved, you can return to your roles and your regular sex life. Here’s how to resolve conflicts in BDSM relationships, so you can get back to the fun stuff: Take a time out: When you’re in the heat of the moment, it’s all too... View Article

A Guide to Navigating BDSM as a Beginner

August 19, 2021 1:31 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Navigating BDSM as a beginner can be intimidating. Do you need to go buy out the toy section of your favorite adult store before you can begin? Are there rules, community norms or something else you must follow, or can you forge your own path? As always, your exploration is up to you—which means that when you’re navigating BDSM in the beginning, you should take it as slow as you like. Finding out what you like (and what you really, really don’t) is an individual discovery. Here’s how to take the plunge as a BDSM beginner. What is BDSM? BDSM... View Article

Five Ways to Help Your Dom Feel Comfortable Exploring BDSM More Deeply

August 5, 2021 7:21 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

So, you’ve decided to explore BDSM with your partner—but they’re a little hesitant about acting as a dom. Dominant partners usually enjoy control and guiding their submissives through scenes. However, even the most self-assured dom needs some care, so they can feel comfortable with your BDSM relationship. After all, being in charge all the time can be exhausting. Here are a few ways you can contribute to your relationship so your dom feels comfortable with BDSM exploration: Communicate often: Communication is the key to all healthy, satisfying BDSM relationships. It’s not just a matter of communicating while you’re in the... View Article

BDSM in Long-Distance Relationships

July 22, 2021 7:21 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

It’s hard to have intimacy in a long-distance relationship. When you don’t see each other often, you may struggle to connect in both an emotional and physical way—especially if your tastes are anything but vanilla. If you’re into BDSM, there are a few ways you can keep things spicy, even when there are hundreds of miles and plenty of hours between you. Exploring BDSM across a long distance will help keep your physical relationship alive, but it creates a new sense of emotional intimacy, too. As always, make sure you discuss boundaries, limits and safe words before you begin: Embrace... View Article

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