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Kink vs. Fetish: What’s the Difference?

July 30, 2020 7:21 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

When you’re new to the world of BDSM, the difference between kinks and fetishes may not be immediately clear. Most people know that both refer to taboo or out-of-the-norm sexual practices, but what do they really mean, and how are they different from each other? While it’s true that both terms refer to sex acts or desires that are out of the ordinary, they refer to very different concepts. In short, “kink” is an umbrella term that encompasses all alternative sexual practices, while “fetish” is a specific need in order to become aroused or experience orgasm. Kinks and fetishes are... View Article


The Importance of Safe Words in BDSM

July 16, 2020 7:21 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Experimenting with BDSM gives you the opportunity to try a lot of kinky or taboo sex acts and power dynamics—but when you’re trying something that involves giving up control to another person, having a safe word is a must. Safe words are the “red light” of sex: if you or your partner utter your safe word, it means you must stop whatever you’re doing immediately. What a safe word accomplishes A safe word is usually a word you’d never say during sex—think “marshmallow” instead of “stop.” The idea is that each partner, especially the submissive partner, has an absolute out... View Article


What’s the Difference Between a Dominant and a Submissive?

June 25, 2020 11:09 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

When you’re new to the BDSM community, some of the terms may be confusing. BDSM, which stands for “bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism,” is an umbrella term for kinks that tend to involve power games and other taboo forms of expression. Knowing whether you’re dominant or submissive in BDSM is the first step to exploring whether this type of sex play is right for you. Dominant vs. submissive BDSM often involves a power exchange, meaning one partner willingly gives up control to the other. This relationship is built on trust, so it’s important to understand... View Article


How We’re Keeping Our Guests Safe During COVID-19

June 11, 2020 11:09 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

As you’re no doubt aware, the COVID-19 pandemic has been shuttering businesses across the nation in an effort to slow the spread. However, this means that couples are finding it increasingly difficult to get away for a weekend, especially when their tastes run kinkier than most. Monterey Stay and Play is still open during the pandemic. In fact, we think it’s the perfect place to quarantine together! That said, we take coronavirus safety very seriously. As the area’s premier sex dungeon, thorough sanitation is already a part of our business model—read on to learn the precautions we’re taking so you... View Article


Exciting Things for Couples to Try from the 50 Shades of Grey Movies

May 25, 2020 11:04 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

For many people, the 50 Shades of Grey movies opened them up to the possibility of engaging in kinky sex. The books (which have had varying reception in the BDSM community) and movies offer a window into more taboo fantasies and kinky sex ideas. The first movie alone made over $571 million worldwide, indicating that even if we might not talk about it with our friends, there is definitely some interest in getting a little wild—or a lot. Here are some of the best kinky sex ideas from the 50 Shades of Grey movies to explore with your partner: Spanking:... View Article