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How Has the Coronavirus Affected the BDSM Community?

November 23, 2020 8:40 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

COVID-19 has affected every aspect of life, including the kink community. Since the virus can be spread by respiratory droplets, even being indoors without a mask and around people not in your household can risk infection. As you undoubtedly know by now, the virus can be fatal, but even people who recover experience serious side effects like heart and lung damage. Here’s an overview of BDSM during the coronavirus pandemic, and what you can do to enjoy it without unnecessary risk. COVID-19 and BDSM play As we approach winter, many states are encouraging people to stay home instead of travel,... View Article


How to Introduce BDSM to Your Partner

November 7, 2020 5:02 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Have you been thinking about introducing your partner to BDSM? Whatever inspired you, this can be a anxious conversation to have. If you two didn’t meet within the BDSM community in Salinas, CA, there’s a chance your partner might not be open to exploring. For many people, broaching the topic is awkward, embarrassing and scary—but it doesn’t have to be. Here’s a brief guide to introducing BDSM into the relationship. Communication and consent are key If you’re in a relationship, the two of you should already be fairly open to communicating. Of course, if you’re trying to tell your partner... View Article


Does 50 Shades of Grey Accurately Reflect BDSM?

October 22, 2020 5:02 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past decade, you’ve probably heard about 50 Shades of Grey. The Twilight fanfiction-turned-cultural juggernaut has captured the imaginations of millions of readers across the world. While some readers were totally titillated, others in the Salinas, CA BDSM community were disturbed. If you’ve been turning to 50 Shades for sex ideas, read on. There’s one key component missing from the depiction. What 50 Shades is missing If you’ve stumbled upon this blog post, chances are, you’re interested in exploring BDSM. Depending on how experienced you are (or how far along in your... View Article


The Importance of Communication and Consent

September 25, 2020 11:00 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

The single most important factor in BDSM is consent—and the best way to get enthusiastic and informed consent is to communicate with your partner. Communication before and after a scene is the key to having a safe, fun and consensual BDSM experience, however that may play out. It might seem awkward or embarrassing at first, especially if you’re new to kink, but it’s the only way to make sure everyone is on the same page and is enjoying the experience. The more you do it, the easier it will become. Communicating about boundaries Before the clothes come off, sit down... View Article


What Is Aftercare in BDSM?

September 11, 2020 11:00 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

BDSM, either as an occasional practice or a lifestyle, doesn’t stop when the sex acts are over. Aftercare is a crucial component after any scene—it’s a chance for the participants to recalibrate after intense sex. What is BDSM aftercare, and how do you do it properly? Read on for some tips. Why is aftercare important? Most people who enjoy BDSM don’t make it the entire focus of their relationship, and even if they do, aftercare is still important. It’s a way for partners to connect, reassure each other and recover. Sometimes it’s physically or emotionally difficult to switch gears from... View Article