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Time Outs: Bondage Works Best!

June 4, 2021 1:24 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Are you thinking about adding punishments to your BDSM play? Not all of them have to be of the whips, canes and clamps variety. Sometimes a bondage time out can be an extremely effective way to adjust your submissive’s behavior. As long as you both discuss punishments, potential length and limits, you can use time outs to create anticipation, punishment or both. Here’s how to get started when you’re looking to use time outs in your BDSM relationship: Remember that time outs are discipline: Discipline can be a fun way to establish dominance—reward the good behavior and punish the bad—but... View Article

Spanking Is Not Just a Punishment

May 21, 2021 1:24 am Published by Leave your thoughts

If you, like the Red Hot Chili Peppers once sang, “like pleasure spiked with pain,” you’re not alone. Spanking has been a part of sexual play for thousands of years, if not more. So, what’s the obsession with slapping butts and other body parts—and is it right for you? If you’re looking to add new ways to play, spanking can be a source of pleasure and punishment. Here’s what you need to know. History of spanking Did you know that even the Kama Sutra has instructions on spanking? It’s true—the book lays out four different hand positions, six positions for... View Article

Caning for Fun and Punishment

May 6, 2021 5:41 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

If you’re looking to try something new in your BDSM relationship, why not try caning for fun and punishment? Whether you’re new to impact play or are looking to try a different instrument, there are plenty of BDSM aficionados who swear by the practice. However, it’s important that you negotiate the scene beforehand and take care not to seriously injure your partner—after all, caning can be quite painful. Here are our best tips when you’re trying caning for the first time. What to use Consider using rattan or plastic canes, but avoid bamboo whenever possible, since it’s too rigid and... View Article

What to Know About Temporary Power Exchange

April 22, 2021 5:41 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Power exchange is one of the driving forces behind many BDSM relationships, whether it’s master and slave, dominance and submission, caregiver and little or a number of other relationship types. These might be complete power exchanges, or temporary. The partners’ roles can stay the same or shift depending on mood and preference. No matter what the dynamic, however, there are a few “rules” for temporary power exchange relationships. Here’s an overview of what you should know if you’re considering this type of play. Consent is key The only “rule” you should follow is ensuring that all parties have completely consented... View Article

Understanding FLR (Female-Led Relationships)

April 2, 2021 5:23 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Have you been curious about female-led relationships (FLR) and how to incorporate them into your existing relationship? You’re not alone—and you’re not limited to BDSM practices, either. Although FLR originated within the BDSM and kink community, the term has now expanded to include relationships where a woman has more power than the man. This could be in the bedroom, but could also refer to their status as breadwinner, decision-making authority or other power dynamics. Of course, many couples find that an FLR is also an exciting part of their sex life. If you’re a woman who loves to be in... View Article