Does BDSM Lead to Better Sex and Relationships?

Does practicing BDSM help with better sex and more fulfilling relationships? While there have been countless studies performed, with varying results, most researchers agree that safe, sane and consensual BDSM can help with better sex and relationships. As long as all parties agree on boundaries, you can use bondage, discipline, submission and masochism to forge a new sense of closeness—and a lot of bedroom fun.

BDSM and public perception

There are plenty of people out there who hesitate to try BDSM, thanks to its taboo public perception. If your only knowledge of BDSM comes from 50 Shades of Grey and other pop culture depictions, you might get the impression that it’s extreme or dysfunctional. However, true kink aficionados know that it’s entirely possible to have a healthy BDSM relationship.

You might also be surprised to hear that plenty of people practice BDSM—about 40 percent or people show an interest in at least some sort of kinky practices. In fact, although most BDSM fans think 50 Shades is an inaccurate depiction (Christian Grey’s preferences are attributed to childhood abuse, not to mention the lack of consensual sex portrayed throughout), it has indeed helped make the concept less shocking to the public.

The benefits of BDSM

There are plenty of ways BDSM can help with better sex and relationships, including:

• Better communication: When you’re practicing BDSM, it’s important that you communicate your wants, needs and boundaries. One of the first things you should do is decide on a safe word—and agree that when someone utters the safe word, all activity must stop immediately. It also forces you to discuss your desires at length, which can be awkward at first. Eventually, however, you’ll find that your communication has improved and you’re more open to discussing what you want and need.
• Lower stress levels: If you’ve ever experienced a runner’s high or yoga-induced Zen, BDSM can give you a similar feeling. The endorphins produced can make you feel amazing, and it also reduces cortisol, a difficult stress hormone. Not only are you having fun, fulfilling sex, but it’s great for your stress levels, too.
• Deeper trust: When you practice BDSM, it requires a certain level of trust in your partner. You need to be able to trust that your partner will respect your boundaries and give you what you need. If you practice in a healthy and respectful manner, your trust as a couple will naturally deepen.
• Better mental health: Finally, BDSM leads to better mental health. Contrary to what Christian Grey claimed, BDSM can decrease your anxiety, make you less sensitive to what other people think about you and, in fact, will help you become a more well-adjusted person.

There are plenty of ways that BDSM can help you enjoy a better relationship and better sex. If you want to find out firsthand just how fun it can be, book a trip to the Monterey Stay & Play, and get ready to live out all your kinkiest fantasies. Reach out today to start planning!

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