What do you know about kink—and what do you want to know about it? If you’ve considered ramping things up (or tying things down) in the bedroom, it’s important to do some research ahead of time so you fully understand what kink is, how to do it safely and how to communicate with your partner. Here are some of the things you should know when you’re ready to embrace the kink lifestyle:
- Your friends are doing it: Believe it or not, about half the population is interested in kinky sex, which means that, chances are, someone you know is getting a little freaky in the bedroom from time to time. Bottom line: you’re not alone, your interest is not that unusual and if you open up to your partner or close friends, you might be surprised at what kind of feedback they have to share.
- It’s all relative (but not that kind of relative): What does “kink” mean, anyway? It’s a spectrum, not a hard-and-fast set of practices. For the couple who only engages in the missionary position, adding a blindfold or leaving some clothes on might be kinky. If your tastes are more advanced, that could mean trying things like group sex, anal sex, impact play, role playing, restraints and more. “Kink” is generally defined as being anything beyond “normal” sexual practices—and as you can imagine, the definition of “normal” changes over time. In short, don’t worry about whether something is kinky to others—only your and your partner’s opinions matter.
- It requires good communication: When you’re starting out in your exploration of kink, make sure that you’re ready to talk about everything with your partner. That includes the acts you want to try (and the ones you don’t), what you like to be called, what you hope to get out of it and what you need afterward. Being able to talk openly will enhance your experience, even if it feels a little awkward.
- You need to start slowly: Don’t get too ambitious the first few times you explore the kink lifestyle. Work your way up to Shibari and installing a sex swing in your bedroom, and always have a safe word with every partner.
- It’s good for your health: Feeling a little down? Kinky sex is actually good for your mental health. People who engage in kink tend to be less neurotic, but more extroverted and open minded. In fact, those who regularly have kinky sex report a better sense of overall wellbeing. Positive kinky experiences tend to involve lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol, and practitioners report greater intimacy with their partner. (You know what they say about the couple that plays together.)
For more kink tips, visit our blog—then book a visit at the Monterey Stay and Play. We offer a safe, secluded and private environment for you to explore your kinky desires, whether you’re new or a longtime aficionado. Reach out to learn more—we look forward to welcoming you soon!
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