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What’s the Difference Between a Dominant and a Submissive?

June 25, 2020 11:09 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

When you’re new to the BDSM community, some of the terms may be confusing. BDSM, which stands for “bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism,” is an umbrella term for kinks that tend to involve power games and other taboo forms of expression. Knowing whether you’re dominant or submissive in BDSM is the first step to exploring whether this type of sex play is right for you. Dominant vs. submissive BDSM often involves a power exchange, meaning one partner willingly gives up control to the other. This relationship is built on trust, so it’s important to understand... View Article


How We’re Keeping Our Guests Safe During COVID-19

June 11, 2020 11:09 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

As you’re no doubt aware, the COVID-19 pandemic has been shuttering businesses across the nation in an effort to slow the spread. However, this means that couples are finding it increasingly difficult to get away for a weekend, especially when their tastes run kinkier than most. Monterey Stay and Play is still open during the pandemic. In fact, we think it’s the perfect place to quarantine together! That said, we take coronavirus safety very seriously. As the area’s premier sex dungeon, thorough sanitation is already a part of our business model—read on to learn the precautions we’re taking so you... View Article


Exciting Things for Couples to Try from the 50 Shades of Grey Movies

May 25, 2020 11:04 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

For many people, the 50 Shades of Grey movies opened them up to the possibility of engaging in kinky sex. The books (which have had varying reception in the BDSM community) and movies offer a window into more taboo fantasies and kinky sex ideas. The first movie alone made over $571 million worldwide, indicating that even if we might not talk about it with our friends, there is definitely some interest in getting a little wild—or a lot. Here are some of the best kinky sex ideas from the 50 Shades of Grey movies to explore with your partner: Spanking:... View Article


Must-Try BDSM Ideas and Fantasies to Try at a Sex Dungeon

May 11, 2020 11:03 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

If you’ve never been to a BDSM sex dungeon, you might not know which BDSM ideas to try first. When you and your partner or partners have an entire dungeon room to yourselves, the possibilities for exploring your sexualities and relationships are only limited by your kinks and consent. Whether you’re a longtime member of the BDSM community or you’re spicing up the relationship, there are some classic fantasies that you can act out in the privacy of a sex dungeon. Here are a few of our favorite dungeon room BDSM ideas: Master/slave play: Naturally, the first thing that comes... View Article


Eight Sex Bucket List Ideas for Married Couples

April 24, 2020 11:28 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Any marriage takes work, but when we say that, we usually mean things like putting away our dirty socks so that our spouse doesn’t have to, figuring out a way to tolerate your mother-in-law’s questions about having babies and making an effort to say you love each other every day. Although intimacy is a crucial part of any marriage, it’s usually not until there’s a problem in the bedroom that we turn our attention to working on our sex lives. At Monterey Stay and Play, however, we think that your sex life deserves just as much attention as any other... View Article


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