Caning for Fun and Punishment

If you’re looking to try something new in your BDSM relationship, why not try caning for fun and punishment? Whether you’re new to impact play or are looking to try a different instrument, there are plenty of BDSM aficionados who swear by the practice. However, it’s important that you negotiate the scene beforehand and take care not to seriously injure your partner—after all, caning can be quite painful.

Here are our best tips when you’re trying caning for the first time.

What to use

Consider using rattan or plastic canes, but avoid bamboo whenever possible, since it’s too rigid and breaks easily. Synthetic canes will usually be more painful than rattan, so use those only when you and your partner have decided it’s time to increase the pain level. Some users like to switch between natural and synthetic canes to vary the sensation.

Setting the pace

Like any BDSM practice, consent and negotiation are key. Talk to your partner about what you want and need and when to stop, and set a safe word. This will ensure that no one ends up having an unpleasant, painful experience (instead of a fun and painful experience, naturally).

One key factor is the pacing. Most people need to be warmed up before any true “punishment” can begin—otherwise, the caning quickly loses any pleasurable aspects. Start slow and work up to harder lashes, following your submissive’s cues. To that end, you may also want to experiment with positions (many people enjoy being bent over, while others might prefer to lie face down) and avoid using excessive bondage equipment for the first few sessions. Start simple and work your way up.

Techniques

Certain practitioners recommend letting the cane “sink” into the skin after a strike. Other times, you might want to let the cane bounce up and down a few times. Generally, the caning technique is all in the wrist—if you’re worried about injuring your partner, practice on a pillow a few times to see how the cane responds to your movements.

Once you’ve experimented with technique, start varying the sensation. You may want to switch caning up with dragging the cane across their body, rubbing them with your hands or trying different spots. And, of course, it can be fun to figure out exactly what your partner wants… and almost comply. Leave them begging for more as much as possible. That will only enhance the experience.

Note that the thicker your cane, the more likely it is to scar or otherwise permanently damage the tissue. Don’t neglect the aftercare!

Games

There’s no end to the games you can play when you use caning for “funishment.” Some people like to make their submissives count the lashes, while others use dice or other devices to choose how many spankings they’ll get. Caning is yet another chance to explore the power dynamic and be creative.

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