Spanking Is Not Just a Punishment

If you, like the Red Hot Chili Peppers once sang, “like pleasure spiked with pain,” you’re not alone. Spanking has been a part of sexual play for thousands of years, if not more. So, what’s the obsession with slapping butts and other body parts—and is it right for you? If you’re looking to add new ways to play, spanking can be a source of pleasure and punishment. Here’s what you need to know.

History of spanking

Did you know that even the Kama Sutra has instructions on spanking? It’s true—the book lays out four different hand positions, six positions for striking and eight kinds of crying to produce. It’s not the only historical source referring to spanking, either: ancient Etruscan frescoes from around 800 BC were discovered in the 1960s, portraying a smiling woman bent over while an equally cheerful man paddles her.

Countless other erotic etchings, paintings, literature and sculptures have depicted spanking as a source of good old-fashioned bedroom fun—including cultural juggernaut 50 Shades of Grey during the modern era. There’s no need to worry that you’re a deviant. Your friends might not talk about it, but chances are some of them are definitely doing it.

Why do people like it?

There’s no one reason people enjoy spanking in the bedroom, either giving or receiving—but psychologists, including Sigmund Freud, have been analyzing it for a long time. Maybe the spanker and the spanked get a dopamine rush from the act, or maybe it really is a callback to your childhood (thanks, Freud). Or, more simply, perhaps it just feels good. Whatever the reason you and your partner are interested in spanking, just remember that there’s no reason to be embarrassed.

How to get into spanking

Even people who claim that they’d never try BDSM will try spanking. Studies have shown that plenty of “vanilla” couples include spanking in their bedroom repertoire—while they might not be bound and gagged during the process, and they’re certainly not using whips or canes, spanking is an “entry level” BDSM practice.

If you’re intrigued by impact play and want to try it in your own relationship, talk to your partner first. (It might be awkward or embarrassing the first time, but communication is key.) Let them know that you’re interested in trying spanking, and what your expectations or limits might be. If they’re into it, you can discuss positions, how hard you want it to be and what your safe word might be. Perhaps both of you want to switch roles, or maybe only one of you is interested in being spanked.

Whatever you choose, talking about it ahead of time will ensure no one ends up with bruises—unless they want them, of course.

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