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5 Signs of Bad Submissives

February 3, 2022 10:24 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

What’s the sign of a bad submissive? When you practice BDSM, “bad” could mean anything from “naughty and must be punished” to “unhealthy and dysfunctional.” In relationships where there’s a heavy dominant/submissive component, it’s important that you take the power exchange into account. Some BDSM submissive behaviors are bad in the unhealthy way, and should be avoided. Here are five signs that your submissive is bad: Bad communication skills: Communication is the hallmark of any BDSM relationship. If you aren’t able to express your desires and set limits, neither of you will get what you need out of the relationship.... View Article

Does BDSM Lead to Better Sex and Relationships?

January 20, 2022 10:24 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Does practicing BDSM help with better sex and more fulfilling relationships? While there have been countless studies performed, with varying results, most researchers agree that safe, sane and consensual BDSM can help with better sex and relationships. As long as all parties agree on boundaries, you can use bondage, discipline, submission and masochism to forge a new sense of closeness—and a lot of bedroom fun. BDSM and public perception There are plenty of people out there who hesitate to try BDSM, thanks to its taboo public perception. If your only knowledge of BDSM comes from 50 Shades of Grey and... View Article

BDSM Myths You Need to Stop Believing, According to Kink Experts

December 29, 2021 11:59 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

There are some major myths about BDSM—stuff you should stop believing, if you listen to kink experts. By now, you probably know that 50 Shades is not an accurate depiction of most BDSM relationships, nor does every practitioner suffer from personality disorders or childhood trauma. Nevertheless, these misperceptions persist. BDSM is primarily a power exchange. That means that one partner consensually gives up control to another, who agrees to be the dominant partner. You might do this for various reasons, whether that’s “I have made 700 other decisions today and it’s your turn to be in charge,” or because you... View Article

The Psychology of BDSM: What Draws People to Kink?

December 15, 2021 11:59 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Why do people like BDSM? Whether you’re an avid fan or just intrigued by the possibilities, there are a lot of theories floating around. Some people worry that because their sex lives are anything but vanilla, there’s something “wrong” with them. Thankfully, that couldn’t be further from the truth. The psychology behind BDSM might surprise you, especially if your main introduction was 50 Shades of Grey, or you grew up believing that liking non-vanilla sex was a sign of childhood trauma. Psychologists believe that anywhere from 2 to upwards of 60 percent of people enjoy at least some BDSM practices,... View Article

Understanding and Setting BDSM Limits

November 25, 2021 9:57 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Whether you’re new to BDSM or an avid aficionado, you need to learn how to set limits. Setting limits in BDSM is not only a way to protect yourself, but you’ll protect your relationship, too. You don’t have to draw up an official “contract,” like you might have seen in 50 Shades of Grey, although some people do. However you put them out there, setting BDSM limits is important. Hard vs. soft limits The goal of having limits is to ensure that the submissive knows they can safely explore their desires, while the dominant partner knows where they can experiment... View Article

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