Categories for BDSM

Seven Must-Have Items for Your Sex Dungeon at Home

February 6, 2021 4:22 am Published by

Thinking about turning your bedroom into the ultimate playground for adults? When you’re having fun experimenting with BDSM, you might wonder exactly what a good sex dungeon should include. Maybe you haven’t figured out exactly which kinks are your favorite, or you’re trying to decide what can be stored discreetly. There are no hard and fast rules for what goes into a sex dungeon—it’s all based on personal preference. There’s no need to study 50 Shades of Grey and make your own “red room.” With that said, there are a few popular toys and items that can make your experience... View Article

The Basics of Using Safe Words

January 23, 2021 4:22 am Published by

One of the reasons BDSM can be great for relationships is that it fosters a lot of trust. Often, one partner takes on a submissive role, which means they have to trust that their partner will respect their boundaries, even if the partner disagrees or wants to keep going. That’s where safe words come in. Here’s why safe words are so important when you’re exploring BDSM. What is a safe word? A safe word is a mutually-agreed-upon word or phrase that, if spoken, indicates that all activity has to stop immediately. Even if something feels really great, or you’re close... View Article

The Importance of Discussing Hard Limits in BDSM

January 12, 2021 5:07 pm Published by

When you’re getting ready to explore BDSM, you and your partner will need to discuss BDSM rules and limits. Limits are frequently referred to as “hard” or “soft,” which indicates where each partner can push and where they cannot. Since trust is key to a safe and enjoyable BDSM experience, you’ll need to determine your hard and soft limits right away. Deciding and discussing your limits BDSM is an umbrella term for a lot of kinky practices, so there’s no getting around it: you’ll have to discuss limits before the clothing comes off. Otherwise, one of you could be picturing... View Article

How to Introduce BDSM to Your Partner

November 7, 2020 5:02 am Published by

Have you been thinking about introducing your partner to BDSM? Whatever inspired you, this can be a anxious conversation to have. If you two didn’t meet within the BDSM community in Salinas, CA, there’s a chance your partner might not be open to exploring. For many people, broaching the topic is awkward, embarrassing and scary—but it doesn’t have to be. Here’s a brief guide to introducing BDSM into the relationship. Communication and consent are key If you’re in a relationship, the two of you should already be fairly open to communicating. Of course, if you’re trying to tell your partner... View Article

Does 50 Shades of Grey Accurately Reflect BDSM?

October 22, 2020 5:02 am Published by

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past decade, you’ve probably heard about 50 Shades of Grey. The Twilight fanfiction-turned-cultural juggernaut has captured the imaginations of millions of readers across the world. While some readers were totally titillated, others in the Salinas, CA BDSM community were disturbed. If you’ve been turning to 50 Shades for sex ideas, read on. There’s one key component missing from the depiction. What 50 Shades is missing If you’ve stumbled upon this blog post, chances are, you’re interested in exploring BDSM. Depending on how experienced you are (or how far along in your... View Article

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