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Understanding and Setting BDSM Limits

November 25, 2021 9:57 pm Published by

Whether you’re new to BDSM or an avid aficionado, you need to learn how to set limits. Setting limits in BDSM is not only a way to protect yourself, but you’ll protect your relationship, too. You don’t have to draw up an official “contract,” like you might have seen in 50 Shades of Grey, although some people do. However you put them out there, setting BDSM limits is important. Hard vs. soft limits The goal of having limits is to ensure that the submissive knows they can safely explore their desires, while the dominant partner knows where they can experiment... View Article

How BDSM Can Be Good for Your Health and Improve Your Relationship

October 28, 2021 11:00 pm Published by

Chips, dips, chains, whips—that’s a good party, if you ask the 1980s movie Weird Science. But if you’re interested in BDSM as a general practice, you might be delighted to find out that it can actually improve your health and benefit your relationship as well. Here’s a closer look at how to find out whether BDSM is good for your health: Enjoy better communication: The hallmark of BDSM is that it requires excellent communication. Not only do you have to say, “Hey, I’m not so sure about that anal plug, I don’t think I’ll enjoy it,” but you also have... View Article

Ways to Safely Participate in BDSM

October 14, 2021 11:00 pm Published by

So, you want to try BDSM, but you’re worried about your personal, emotional and physical safety. That’s completely understandable. Thankfully, when you have the right partner, there are plenty of ways to participate in safe BDSM. There’s no way to completely eliminate the risks involved with BDSM. That’s why it’s so important to only give it a try with someone you trust implicitly—and who will sit down with you to talk about boundaries, expectations and other issues. If you are giving up physical power to another person, there’s always the chance that they can take advantage. We want you to... View Article

How to Resolve Conflict in a D/s Relationship

September 2, 2021 1:31 am Published by

Everyone fights, even when you love each other. When you’re in a D/s relationship, however, the dynamics may be unlike those of “typical” relationships you’ve experienced in the past. For most D/s partnerships, the key to resolving the conflict will be to step outside your BDSM roles in order to address the issue. Once things are resolved, you can return to your roles and your regular sex life. Here’s how to resolve conflicts in BDSM relationships, so you can get back to the fun stuff: Take a time out: When you’re in the heat of the moment, it’s all too... View Article

A Guide to Navigating BDSM as a Beginner

August 19, 2021 1:31 am Published by

Navigating BDSM as a beginner can be intimidating. Do you need to go buy out the toy section of your favorite adult store before you can begin? Are there rules, community norms or something else you must follow, or can you forge your own path? As always, your exploration is up to you—which means that when you’re navigating BDSM in the beginning, you should take it as slow as you like. Finding out what you like (and what you really, really don’t) is an individual discovery. Here’s how to take the plunge as a BDSM beginner. What is BDSM? BDSM... View Article

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