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A Guide to Being a Submissive

November 11, 2021 9:56 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Whether you’ve already dipped your toes (or other body parts) into the world of BDSM, or you’ve always wanted to try it, there’s plenty to learn. Even the most ardent practitioners are always learning or trying something new. The first thing to decide is whether you’d prefer to be dominant or submissive. Here’s our guide to being a sub—try these tips to find out if being submissive is right for you. Why do people choose submission? There are dozens of reasons someone might choose to be a sub. The idea of giving up control in a “safe” environment is appealing... View Article

A Guide to Being a Dominant

September 30, 2021 3:22 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Whether you’ve always wanted to be sexually dominant or you’re starting to explore your fantasies, there’s no single way to be a dominant. Every dom has a different style, but there are some major guidelines to adhere to and red flags to avoid. If you want to establish long-lasting BDSM relationships with submissive partners, you’ll need to put in the work first. Put down the pop culture depictions of BDSM and read on. What is a dom? Doms come in a lot of different varieties, but good ones have several qualities in common. First, they’re respectful and patient—not aggressive and... View Article

The Difference Between Real and Fake Dominants

September 16, 2021 3:22 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

BDSM requires a lot of trust and vulnerability. If you’re not practicing the lifestyle within an already-committed relationship, you might be on the lookout for a dominant partner. Unfortunately, not all doms are created equal. Some people (usually but not exclusively men) claim they’re doms—but they don’t adhere to the consent, trust and boundary practices that make BDSM a safe and fulfilling experience for practitioners. Here’s how to tell the difference between real and fake dominants, so you can spot a fake a mile away. Real dominants A real dom is committed to the safety practices in BDSM as much... View Article

How to Resolve Conflict in a D/s Relationship

September 2, 2021 1:31 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Everyone fights, even when you love each other. When you’re in a D/s relationship, however, the dynamics may be unlike those of “typical” relationships you’ve experienced in the past. For most D/s partnerships, the key to resolving the conflict will be to step outside your BDSM roles in order to address the issue. Once things are resolved, you can return to your roles and your regular sex life. Here’s how to resolve conflicts in BDSM relationships, so you can get back to the fun stuff: Take a time out: When you’re in the heat of the moment, it’s all too... View Article

Time Outs: Bondage Works Best!

June 4, 2021 1:24 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Are you thinking about adding punishments to your BDSM play? Not all of them have to be of the whips, canes and clamps variety. Sometimes a bondage time out can be an extremely effective way to adjust your submissive’s behavior. As long as you both discuss punishments, potential length and limits, you can use time outs to create anticipation, punishment or both. Here’s how to get started when you’re looking to use time outs in your BDSM relationship: Remember that time outs are discipline: Discipline can be a fun way to establish dominance—reward the good behavior and punish the bad—but... View Article

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