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The Difference Between Real and Fake Dominants

September 16, 2021 3:22 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

BDSM requires a lot of trust and vulnerability. If you’re not practicing the lifestyle within an already-committed relationship, you might be on the lookout for a dominant partner. Unfortunately, not all doms are created equal. Some people (usually but not exclusively men) claim they’re doms—but they don’t adhere to the consent, trust and boundary practices that make BDSM a safe and fulfilling experience for practitioners. Here’s how to tell the difference between real and fake dominants, so you can spot a fake a mile away. Real dominants A real dom is committed to the safety practices in BDSM as much... View Article

How to Resolve Conflict in a D/s Relationship

September 2, 2021 1:31 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Everyone fights, even when you love each other. When you’re in a D/s relationship, however, the dynamics may be unlike those of “typical” relationships you’ve experienced in the past. For most D/s partnerships, the key to resolving the conflict will be to step outside your BDSM roles in order to address the issue. Once things are resolved, you can return to your roles and your regular sex life. Here’s how to resolve conflicts in BDSM relationships, so you can get back to the fun stuff: Take a time out: When you’re in the heat of the moment, it’s all too... View Article

Time Outs: Bondage Works Best!

June 4, 2021 1:24 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Are you thinking about adding punishments to your BDSM play? Not all of them have to be of the whips, canes and clamps variety. Sometimes a bondage time out can be an extremely effective way to adjust your submissive’s behavior. As long as you both discuss punishments, potential length and limits, you can use time outs to create anticipation, punishment or both. Here’s how to get started when you’re looking to use time outs in your BDSM relationship: Remember that time outs are discipline: Discipline can be a fun way to establish dominance—reward the good behavior and punish the bad—but... View Article

What to Know About Temporary Power Exchange

April 22, 2021 5:41 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Power exchange is one of the driving forces behind many BDSM relationships, whether it’s master and slave, dominance and submission, caregiver and little or a number of other relationship types. These might be complete power exchanges, or temporary. The partners’ roles can stay the same or shift depending on mood and preference. No matter what the dynamic, however, there are a few “rules” for temporary power exchange relationships. Here’s an overview of what you should know if you’re considering this type of play. Consent is key The only “rule” you should follow is ensuring that all parties have completely consented... View Article

What’s the Difference Between a Dominant and a Submissive?

June 25, 2020 11:09 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

When you’re new to the BDSM community, some of the terms may be confusing. BDSM, which stands for “bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism,” is an umbrella term for kinks that tend to involve power games and other taboo forms of expression. Knowing whether you’re dominant or submissive in BDSM is the first step to exploring whether this type of sex play is right for you. Dominant vs. submissive BDSM often involves a power exchange, meaning one partner willingly gives up control to the other. This relationship is built on trust, so it’s important to understand... View Article

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