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Spanking Is Not Just a Punishment

September 26, 2022 12:00 am Published by

Spanking is a core BDSM skill, and not just because it’s the first ‘toy’ in anyone’s tool chest. Hands are tactile and effective at delivering a range of sensations, from the sublime to the sadistic. Spanking can be a sizzling warm-up before using other implements of pain delivery or the whole show. Since it’s relatively low risk, it’s a great place to start when looking for sadistic erotic play ideas.  Communication Is Divine Before any kinky ideas for the bedroom become reality, take time to sit down with your partner and discuss your desires, fears, and limitations. Establish a safe... View Article

The Ultimate List of Kinks & Fetishes, Explained by Sex Experts

July 20, 2022 12:00 am Published by

Kinks and fetishes are a huge part of life for many people, but they are still considered "taboo" topics. Thus, you might be searching for a discreet guide to kinks and fetishes to learn more. These are some top kinks and fetishes and an explanation of how they differ, as per the experts.  Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish A kink is a sexual act that falls outside of what most people consider normal or acceptable. It doesn’t have to be outrageous for people to consider it a kink. It just needs to be different from conventional relations. Some... View Article

The Difference Between Dommes vs Doms

July 19, 2022 12:00 am Published by

The world of BDSM has many phrases and terms you may not understand if you’re a beginner. Here’s some information about BDSM and the term dommes vs dom. What Is BDSM? BDSM stands for bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism. Discipline and submission are sometimes added to the formula as well. BDSM is a sexual lifestyle that involves exerting power over another person to the point of thoroughly dominating the individual.  Some individuals refer to BDSM sexuality as "kink," which means it’s non-conventional and much different from traditional, stationary, or "wholesome" lovemaking.  For BDSM to work effectively and not be considered... View Article

Beginner’s Guide to Kink

May 6, 2022 12:00 am Published by

If you are curious about adding spice to your relationship but unsure where to begin, this beginners guide to kinks will offer titillating ideas. Start with kinks for beginners — advanced kink is best reserved for after you’ve gotten comfortable playing at the edge.  A Note on Safety  Kink requires communication, honesty, and safety considerations. You can explore R.A.C.K. and S.S.C. — two safety models developed by the community. They essentially mean any kink you play with should be understood and agreed upon before play begins, and you should know the risks and plan for them.  Safe words are among... View Article

Addressing Common Stereotypes in the BDSM Community

December 7, 2020 8:41 pm Published by

BDSM stereotypes and misconceptions abound, whether it’s people who have only seen 50 Shades of Grey and think it’s representative of the community as a whole, or those who find it shameful or threatening. As with all areas of life, BDSM is best viewed on a spectrum: it can be as mild as wearing handcuffs and a blindfold on occasion, or as all-encompassing as an entire lifestyle choice. If you’re thinking about exploring BDSM, it’s good to be aware of these stereotypes and misconceptions so you can educate yourself appropriately. Here’s the truth behind some of the most popular misconceptions:... View Article

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