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The Difference Between Dommes vs Doms

July 19, 2022 12:00 am Published by

The world of BDSM has many phrases and terms you may not understand if you’re a beginner. Here’s some information about BDSM and the term dommes vs dom. What Is BDSM? BDSM stands for bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism. Discipline and submission are sometimes added to the formula as well. BDSM is a sexual lifestyle that involves exerting power over another person to the point of thoroughly dominating the individual.  Some individuals refer to BDSM sexuality as "kink," which means it’s non-conventional and much different from traditional, stationary, or "wholesome" lovemaking.  For BDSM to work effectively and not be considered... View Article

Beginner’s Guide to Kink

May 6, 2022 12:00 am Published by

If you are curious about adding spice to your relationship but unsure where to begin, this beginners guide to kinks will offer titillating ideas. Start with kinks for beginners — advanced kink is best reserved for after you’ve gotten comfortable playing at the edge.  A Note on Safety  Kink requires communication, honesty, and safety considerations. You can explore R.A.C.K. and S.S.C. — two safety models developed by the community. They essentially mean any kink you play with should be understood and agreed upon before play begins, and you should know the risks and plan for them.  Safe words are among... View Article

Addressing Common Stereotypes in the BDSM Community

December 7, 2020 8:41 pm Published by

BDSM stereotypes and misconceptions abound, whether it’s people who have only seen 50 Shades of Grey and think it’s representative of the community as a whole, or those who find it shameful or threatening. As with all areas of life, BDSM is best viewed on a spectrum: it can be as mild as wearing handcuffs and a blindfold on occasion, or as all-encompassing as an entire lifestyle choice. If you’re thinking about exploring BDSM, it’s good to be aware of these stereotypes and misconceptions so you can educate yourself appropriately. Here’s the truth behind some of the most popular misconceptions:... View Article

How Has the Coronavirus Affected the BDSM Community?

November 23, 2020 8:40 pm Published by

COVID-19 has affected every aspect of life, including the kink community. Since the virus can be spread by respiratory droplets, even being indoors without a mask and around people not in your household can risk infection. As you undoubtedly know by now, the virus can be fatal, but even people who recover experience serious side effects like heart and lung damage. Here’s an overview of BDSM during the coronavirus pandemic, and what you can do to enjoy it without unnecessary risk. COVID-19 and BDSM play As we approach winter, many states are encouraging people to stay home instead of travel,... View Article

Top Five Things to Know About Kink

September 1, 2020 10:14 pm Published by

What do you know about kink—and what do you want to know about it? If you’ve considered ramping things up (or tying things down) in the bedroom, it’s important to do some research ahead of time so you fully understand what kink is, how to do it safely and how to communicate with your partner. Here are some of the things you should know when you’re ready to embrace the kink lifestyle: Your friends are doing it: Believe it or not, about half the population is interested in kinky sex, which means that, chances are, someone you know is getting... View Article

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