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Caning for Fun and Punishment

May 6, 2021 5:41 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

If you’re looking to try something new in your BDSM relationship, why not try caning for fun and punishment? Whether you’re new to impact play or are looking to try a different instrument, there are plenty of BDSM aficionados who swear by the practice. However, it’s important that you negotiate the scene beforehand and take care not to seriously injure your partner—after all, caning can be quite painful. Here are our best tips when you’re trying caning for the first time. What to use Consider using rattan or plastic canes, but avoid bamboo whenever possible, since it’s too rigid and... View Article


What to Know About Temporary Power Exchange

April 22, 2021 5:41 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Power exchange is one of the driving forces behind many BDSM relationships, whether it’s master and slave, dominance and submission, caregiver and little or a number of other relationship types. These might be complete power exchanges, or temporary. The partners’ roles can stay the same or shift depending on mood and preference. No matter what the dynamic, however, there are a few “rules” for temporary power exchange relationships. Here’s an overview of what you should know if you’re considering this type of play. Consent is key The only “rule” you should follow is ensuring that all parties have completely consented... View Article


Understanding FLR (Female-Led Relationships)

April 2, 2021 5:23 am Published by Leave your thoughts

Have you been curious about female-led relationships (FLR) and how to incorporate them into your existing relationship? You’re not alone—and you’re not limited to BDSM practices, either. Although FLR originated within the BDSM and kink community, the term has now expanded to include relationships where a woman has more power than the man. This could be in the bedroom, but could also refer to their status as breadwinner, decision-making authority or other power dynamics. Of course, many couples find that an FLR is also an exciting part of their sex life. If you’re a woman who loves to be in... View Article


Obedience Is a Gift

March 19, 2021 5:23 am Published by Leave your thoughts

BDSM is a sexual spectrum. There’s no single definition of what it means to partake in the lifestyle, including acts or behaviors anyone “must” engage in. However, obedience is often a prevalent facet of BDSM scenes. Dominant and submissive partners tend to enjoy the power exchange dynamic that BDSM offers. Read on for an overview of obedience, and why you might use that as part of your BDSM exploration. Dominant and submissive partners You might have read about people referring to themselves as “doms” or “subs,” which indicates whether they prefer to be the dominant partner or the submissive one.... View Article


Role Play Options

March 5, 2021 4:02 pm Published by Leave your thoughts

Whether you’re looking to spice up your existing BDSM relationship, or you’re planning a sexy weekend getaway to try something new, role playing can be a fun way to bond with your partner. The only problem is deciding which one to try first. Here are some of our favorite BDSM role play ideas. Don’t forget to discuss them with your partner first, and remember to establish boundaries and safe words before you step into the scene: Kinky maid: What happens when you leave a smudge on the mirror? Uh-oh, the homeowner isn’t going to be very happy with you—but maybe... View Article


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