December 29, 2021 11:59 pm
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There are some major myths about BDSM—stuff you should stop believing, if you listen to kink experts. By now, you probably know that 50 Shades is not an accurate depiction of most BDSM relationships, nor does every practitioner suffer from personality disorders or childhood trauma. Nevertheless, these misperceptions persist. BDSM is primarily a power exchange. That means that one partner consensually gives up control to another, who agrees to be the dominant partner. You might do this for various reasons, whether that’s “I have made 700 other decisions today and it’s your turn to be in charge,” or because you... View Article
December 15, 2021 11:59 pm
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Why do people like BDSM? Whether you’re an avid fan or just intrigued by the possibilities, there are a lot of theories floating around. Some people worry that because their sex lives are anything but vanilla, there’s something “wrong” with them. Thankfully, that couldn’t be further from the truth. The psychology behind BDSM might surprise you, especially if your main introduction was 50 Shades of Grey, or you grew up believing that liking non-vanilla sex was a sign of childhood trauma. Psychologists believe that anywhere from 2 to upwards of 60 percent of people enjoy at least some BDSM practices,... View Article
November 25, 2021 9:57 pm
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Whether you’re new to BDSM or an avid aficionado, you need to learn how to set limits. Setting limits in BDSM is not only a way to protect yourself, but you’ll protect your relationship, too. You don’t have to draw up an official “contract,” like you might have seen in 50 Shades of Grey, although some people do. However you put them out there, setting BDSM limits is important. Hard vs. soft limits The goal of having limits is to ensure that the submissive knows they can safely explore their desires, while the dominant partner knows where they can experiment... View Article
October 28, 2021 11:00 pm
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Chips, dips, chains, whips—that’s a good party, if you ask the 1980s movie Weird Science. But if you’re interested in BDSM as a general practice, you might be delighted to find out that it can actually improve your health and benefit your relationship as well. Here’s a closer look at how to find out whether BDSM is good for your health: Enjoy better communication: The hallmark of BDSM is that it requires excellent communication. Not only do you have to say, “Hey, I’m not so sure about that anal plug, I don’t think I’ll enjoy it,” but you also have... View Article
October 14, 2021 11:00 pm
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So, you want to try BDSM, but you’re worried about your personal, emotional and physical safety. That’s completely understandable. Thankfully, when you have the right partner, there are plenty of ways to participate in safe BDSM. There’s no way to completely eliminate the risks involved with BDSM. That’s why it’s so important to only give it a try with someone you trust implicitly—and who will sit down with you to talk about boundaries, expectations and other issues. If you are giving up physical power to another person, there’s always the chance that they can take advantage. We want you to... View Article
