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A Guide to Being a Submissive

November 11, 2021 9:56 pm Published by

Whether you’ve already dipped your toes (or other body parts) into the world of BDSM, or you’ve always wanted to try it, there’s plenty to learn. Even the most ardent practitioners are always learning or trying something new. The first thing to decide is whether you’d prefer to be dominant or submissive. Here’s our guide to being a sub—try these tips to find out if being submissive is right for you. Why do people choose submission? There are dozens of reasons someone might choose to be a sub. The idea of giving up control in a “safe” environment is appealing... View Article

How BDSM Can Be Good for Your Health and Improve Your Relationship

October 28, 2021 11:00 pm Published by

Chips, dips, chains, whips—that’s a good party, if you ask the 1980s movie Weird Science. But if you’re interested in BDSM as a general practice, you might be delighted to find out that it can actually improve your health and benefit your relationship as well. Here’s a closer look at how to find out whether BDSM is good for your health: Enjoy better communication: The hallmark of BDSM is that it requires excellent communication. Not only do you have to say, “Hey, I’m not so sure about that anal plug, I don’t think I’ll enjoy it,” but you also have... View Article

Ways to Safely Participate in BDSM

October 14, 2021 11:00 pm Published by

So, you want to try BDSM, but you’re worried about your personal, emotional and physical safety. That’s completely understandable. Thankfully, when you have the right partner, there are plenty of ways to participate in safe BDSM. There’s no way to completely eliminate the risks involved with BDSM. That’s why it’s so important to only give it a try with someone you trust implicitly—and who will sit down with you to talk about boundaries, expectations and other issues. If you are giving up physical power to another person, there’s always the chance that they can take advantage. We want you to... View Article

A Guide to Being a Dominant

September 30, 2021 3:22 pm Published by

Whether you’ve always wanted to be sexually dominant or you’re starting to explore your fantasies, there’s no single way to be a dominant. Every dom has a different style, but there are some major guidelines to adhere to and red flags to avoid. If you want to establish long-lasting BDSM relationships with submissive partners, you’ll need to put in the work first. Put down the pop culture depictions of BDSM and read on. What is a dom? Doms come in a lot of different varieties, but good ones have several qualities in common. First, they’re respectful and patient—not aggressive and... View Article

The Difference Between Real and Fake Dominants

September 16, 2021 3:22 pm Published by

BDSM requires a lot of trust and vulnerability. If you’re not practicing the lifestyle within an already-committed relationship, you might be on the lookout for a dominant partner. Unfortunately, not all doms are created equal. Some people (usually but not exclusively men) claim they’re doms—but they don’t adhere to the consent, trust and boundary practices that make BDSM a safe and fulfilling experience for practitioners. Here’s how to tell the difference between real and fake dominants, so you can spot a fake a mile away. Real dominants A real dom is committed to the safety practices in BDSM as much... View Article

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